I’m almost three weeks into this “new mommy” thing and starting to find some order in this new world. The last three weeks are a bit of a blur, which is to be expected on little sleep and a totally new and huge responsibility of a newborn. But as I come into the clearing – I realized there were a few things that really helped me get through the last couple weeks and I wanted to share them with you!
- Master the cat nap. People aren’t kidding when they say to enjoy your sleep before the baby arrives. Although it feels like all Mary does is sleep which should give me a chance to do so – I’m definitely sleep deprived. She is also still adjusting to day and night so during the day when I want to play she is sleeping – but at night she likes to party like a rockstar. I’ve learned to take naps when I can – even if they are only 15 to 20 minutes at a time.
- Make lots of lists. Since I’m not entirely thinking straight due to lack of sleep (and some pain medications in those early days) making lists and keeping track of various things with a pen and paper was really important. I seem to have a list for everything – groceries or supplies we need to purchase the next time we go to the store, thank you letters that I’ll need to write and when Miss Mary has either eaten or messed her diaper. Lists have helped me get through and not feel so disorganized. Things pop into my mind at 3:30 am and by 4:00 am they have been forgotten so writing everything down has helped tremendously.
- Say “yes” to help. This has been the hardest for me because I hate asking for help. I’ve learned to say yes to people bringing us dinner or to those who have offered to watch the baby while I take a nap (thanks mom).
- Say “no” to the extras. And I’ve learned to say no to checking my Blackberry too often or worrying about things at work or my social life. These things are all important but in these first few weeks as a mom I need to get my priorities straight and focus on this precious miracle in my life.
- Enjoy every minute. I’m only going to be home for six weeks with Mary so I have to enjoy every minute. I’m amazed how easy it is to spend hour upon hour just looking at her. So away I go – I have a beautiful baby that I need to enjoy!