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9 signs you’re raising a spoiled child

America’s kids are being raised in the most prosperous conditions in history. While there are some notable exceptions, most children have access to materialistic benefits unknown to previous generations.

You wouldn’t get that impression from listening to youngsters in my office. Despite unprecedented levels of affluence, many children whine about wanting more, bigger, and better.

 

Are raising a spoiled child?

  1. Does your child say “thank you” and show appreciation?  Entitled kids take things for granted and rarely express gratitude to their parents or others.
  2. Does your child, even your teen, look to you for entertainment?  Spoiled kids frequently complain about being bored and look to you to provide distraction and amusement.  They act entitled to vacations and special events to give them something to do.
  3. Is your child materialistic?  Spoiled kids care about things rather than relationships. They expect the latest iPhone or video game and get upset if you don’t cater to their demands.  They focus excessively on appearances, and view shopping at a discount store as beneath them.  You can never give a spoiled child enough things to keep them happy, as their expectations only increase with each new toy, trip, or privilege.
  4. Can your child manage a budget?  Spoiled kids don’t worry about money because they are accustomed to getting what they want. They have no idea what things cost, and really don’t care since it doesn’t affect them.
  5. Is your child discourteous to others, particularly those he views as beneath him?  Pay attention to how your child interacts with waiters, service providers, and sales people. Spoiled kids view other people as there to serve them, and they typically ignore or are rude to others. When service standards are not perfect, they tend to complain about minor issues.
  6. Does your child complete household chores on a regular basis?  Every school age child should have some responsibilities around the house because they are members of a family. Older children should have an opportunity to earn money and save for what they want.
  7. Does your child made judgments about others based upon superficial characteristics?  Spoiled kids tend to make negative comments about people who they view as below their economic or social status. They comment disparagingly on others’ clothes, weight, or attractiveness.
  8. Does your child show any interest in helping others? Spoiled kids are more focused on what they want rather than how they may help to others.
  9. Is your child manipulative?  Spoiled kids are somewhat devious in using people to get what they want. Relationships are of little value other than being a means to an end to get what they want. They are typically deceitful and have trouble engaging in relationships built upon trust and caring.

Comments

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    GENE DEMOSS March 26, 2014

    I’m a grandparent born in 1940.  Doc you are so right!  Parents so often want to be a friend to their kids;, instead of taking responsibily for being their parent.  When we have our grand kids (parents aren’t around) they have to tow the mark!  Guess what?  Kids really do want to please you.  Truth is, they are just like the cute little puppies that want to please their master.  Not sure what the total answer is, but we discreetly keep putting our two cents worth in!  Thanks for the reminder.  Gene DeMoss

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    Kathy R. April 8, 2014

    Good article! I can see with my children who was spoiled and who wasn’t. Sadly the one who was spoiled I never see now but the other two are great functioning members of society; I couldn’t be prouder of them.

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    Josh April 13, 2014

    I was the spoiled one and still am. All I had to do was ask. Got money to go to parties, movies, skating rinks were a big thing when I was young, went every weekend. Pretty much whatever I wanted. But I kept all my grades up never failed anything besides keyboarding. But I was also the two out of three that graduated. Out of high school I went to Kroger for my first job. Started out as a bagger. Been there for six years now. Back in the meat department now making $13.95 hr. Have a house of my own with my girlfriend and a beautiful baby girl. So just because you’re spoiled doesn’t mean your gonna grow up to be a bum

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    Kitty April 15, 2014

    I wish my husband understood his lack of punishment and standing firm has caused harm on our relationship and to the children, we (I) have been raising 2 grand kids from his daughter from his previous marriage. They get everything and now one child has the power to rule all! calls me names refuses to abide by any rule or chore given that after 9yrs of mothering and loving them (him) I want to and do cry everyday.

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    ty April 16, 2014

    My son only kind of fits The last one.from a baby in his mothers womb I always talked to him and explained things as best I could for his age level he is now 17 and is a good young man. I’m very proud of my son.

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    Kat May 7, 2014

    My step sone is raised by his great grandparents and is a very spoiled brat. I love him dearly but as he gets older he doesn’t enjoy coming to our house anymore because we do not spoil him like everyone else does. He does not value his relationships with us he only wants to do the fun things we go out and do and if he doesn’t get exactly what he thinks he should get when he’s here he just goes home and complains. There’s nothing I can do about it and it makes me not even want to try to make sure he has a good time here because that will only further reinforce the lack of appriciation for relationships with his father and me and his brother and that he should only care about the fun activities and object we can supply for him. Nothing makes you feel more worthless than a spoiled child that really doesn’t even care about you but only what you can give him. 

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    Rebecca Chapman June 1, 2014

    This article should be distributed to every parent you come in contact with! I truly believe many children are pacified with “things” because the parents are too busy/tired with their own hectic, fast paced lives that they are lazy in providing a warm, loving, deciplined haven for their children. We care more about acquiring things than taking care of our children. I hope we can see this soon before it’s too late. This generation is woefully laking in manners, patience&kindness towards others. Affluence, in this uncivil, unrestful time, does not equat status in producing upstanding children. Parenting is hard work. We need to get back to family.

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    heidi May 24, 2014

    good thing to tell parents and adultes with kids 

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